Recently, I Skyped with a former co-worker. We were comparing our lives since we’d left the company where we both worked; much has happened in the past two years for both of us. As we compared our stories, we had many of the same experiences.
Along the way, I mentioned that an intuitive friend, years before I actually moved to Arizona, told me that it would be a man who helped me get to Arizona. At the time, I was working for a female boss, a really good one—a strong leader, for six years of my career. My co-worker noted that as she had built her career, she was surrounded by a lot of great female mentors who supported her, gave her great ideas, and in general helped her out along the way. But when push came to shove, it was a man who actually made things happen for her.
Here’s what’s interesting about this—the females in the stories were the same rank or higher than the men. But somehow, it was the male leader who made it happen. And that’s disturbing to me.
I’ve lived in the corporate world since 1978. In my early career, of course it was men who made things happen! There were very few females in positions of power. Those who were there had kicked, screamed, and sacrificed family life to get to where they were, and they weren’t likely to share the glory with some young woman just entering the fray.
But that was then, and this is now. The situations that happened with my colleague and I were in the past three years. So, what’s the excuse?
I’m a female leader… I’ve had people reporting to me since 1981. That’s a really long time. And I find myself wondering, did I do all that I could have? Have I made things happen for people? Have I built my centers of influence to be strong enough to be able to help people make moves, or am I that woman who folks go to in order to feel better, so they can get back up on the horse and ride?
Don’t get me wrong. There is something to be said for being the supportive female leader. And lives get changed for the better when we are surrounded by people who lift us up, rather than smacking us down.
When push comes to shove, female leaders, do we exercise our influence? Have we built enough credibility to be respected as a mover and a shaker? My challenge to you is, take a look around. Who have you helped and in what ways? Can you do more? Can female leaders work together to help people make the changes in their lives that set them on their highest and best path? I’d like to hear your stories about how you’ve helped, or were helped by a female leader.
Laurie D Battaglia is a Career and Life Coach, and Co-Owner of Living the Dream Coaches, LLC in Scottsdale, Arizona. She has a passion for working with women and men who are ready to uncover their natural strengths and gifts to lead themselves and others to play a bigger game in life. Laurie and Joseph Battaglia are the stars of the Coaches Corner radio show on KXXT 1010 AM in Phoenix, AZ. Find out more about Laurie and Living the Dream Coaches here: www.livingthedreamcoaches.com